Resentment and Anger

Harboring anger.  Fostering resentment.  We hold these feelings against people who have wronged us like a sword for revenge.  The problem is that we pay the lion’s share of the price when we do not forgive.  Sure they must endure, knowing such ill will is carried for them, but the consequence of holding these emotions is pricy.

Illness:

Anger, resentment, hatred, and bitterness increase stress hormones in our bodies.  These hormones tear down our immune system.  We get sick easier and for longer periods.  Medical conditions become more complicated.  Heart disease, diabetes, arthritis, and cancer all become more likely and more deadly.  It is true that harboring unresolved anger and resentment is a risk factor for earlier death!

Impairs relationships:

Holding onto these emotions is like festering swampy waters.  They distort our views of the world and people.  This makes it hard to have close relationships because we begin to view others through the same swampy lens that we developed for the person who harmed us.  Emotions have trouble distinguishing one person from another.  It’s possible but difficult.

Forgiveness is for us:

Holding resentment makes our lives worse.  As Nelson Mandela said, “As I walked toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I would still be in prison.”  Forgiveness sets us free from negativity that shackles us from our lives.  Resentment and hatred prevent us from enjoying the wonderful things life has to offer.

If you are carrying anger, resentment, bitterness, or hatred and want to let go, read my blog on Forgiveness and talk to your counselor for help.  Forgiveness is a process that takes time and is greatly aided with the help of a supportive person.